I was talking to my mom today, and she mentioned that it sounded like I wanted people to come wallow with me. I hope that's not the impression I've given. I don't need to talk about the fire anymore than I already do. What I wanted to say, and I suppose I haven't been good about it, is that I need people to go to coffee with or on a walk with. I need people to LAUGH with and find joy with. I need laughter back in my life. I want to get to a new normal where life isn't all about the fire and where I can just be with my friends, just be happy, just be. I would love to sit around for a few hours and just laugh...
And a challenge:
A friend of mine has had a very rough spring. A group of my online friends (the same ones who were oh so generous to us!) arranged to send them a care package a week for a while. This last week was my week. I baked up some goodies, threw in some gift cards, printed out some lyrics I thought would speak to her, and timed the package to arrive on a day I knew would be hard for her. As soon as she got the package, she called and told me how much that had meant to her. It is several weeks from their loss(es) and yet she told me she looks forward to those weekly packages. I know how she feels.
But the packages have stopped for us. The cards have stopped. Even the emails have stopped. I sent out over 200 thank you cards to people who were there in the beginning, and now... Occasionally a friend will pick up on our story on Facebook and send me a message. It might be three sentences, but it means the world to me to know people are thinking about us.
As I was writing the card to my friend, I was thinking how out of style cards are, and the cards that are sent seem more obligatory for a specific event rather than meaningful. Not that the cards aren't appreciated, but the message is lost a little, I think, when it feels obligatory rather than a genuine card with a message inside, whether it's of thanks, of joy, of sorrow.
That's when I decided to embark upon a six week mission. And I hope you will join me (and let me know that you've joined me!). For the next six weeks, send a card to someone you know. It doesn't have to be someone who is going through a difficult time because we all have low moments and moments where we need to be recognized. Write a meaningful message inside. You could even enclose some cookies or a Starbucks card, though that isn't required!
Let me know how it goes. I will check in weekly to let you know how I'm doing. I think it might even help lift me up a little myself, though that's not my motive for sending the cards.