Friday, August 29, 2008

Attitude

I was just reading a letter by one of our neighbors and was reminded of how important attitude is during an event like this. I have stopped and talked with many people and written to family and friends about this very thing. Many people wonder how we can all be reacting in such a seemingly strong and collected way. For me, it's a choice. Amazingly when we saw the fire across the street and Dan ran into get the dog and our photos, I did not panic. I tried to get in (which wasn't very smart). When we got to our friend's house, I thought maybe then I would. But I've been working very hard on accepting what is and not allowing myself to get anxious. I reminded myself that I had absolutely no control over whether that fire burned my home. I trusted that the fire department would do what they could, and I said that we would deal with whatever happened when we knew. And even once we knew, I wasn't overly reactive. It was what it was. Other than maybe yesterday, I have been able to stand back and accept what my life is now. I had no choice over whether the fire destroyed my house. But I do have a choice in how I respond. I can choose to be immobilized or I can choose to move forward and find the humor and the light in this situation. I choose the light.

One of those things has been the incredible outreach of this community. I truly have no words to describe how overcome I am by the generosity of others... of people who don't know me or have any connections to me other than being members of this community. A woman stopped me at Babies R Us today to let me know that she had purchased our high chair along with another woman and that it was being stored there. It's just incredible.

I have people calling asking what they can do to help, what we need, if we can use their condos. I really hate saying no (I've always had a problem). But I also don't want to take what others can use. There are so many organizations out there right now who are in need. If it's something we can't use, please consider them. I am going to try to post some other organizations that donate to women who are pregnant or have young children in the coming days so that some of the offered items can perhaps go to them.

Thank you all for making this a wonderful community to live in.

3 comments:

  1. That is amazing...all of the support that you guys are receiving. I am in awe of the strength that you are showing, I'm not sure that I could.

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  2. Brooke- you are such a strong person, and are really an inspiration to others in just the one week that your life has turned upside down. Even with such a wonderful outlook and attitude, allow yourself to have some good cries too.
    We all love you, Dan, and baby Thurber and are pulling for you guys--now and for the long-haul.
    Your blog is really wonderful, and helps us from afar know how amazing people in your community and network are being. We're sending special goodies soon! (Amy Adams) :)

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  3. Brooke and Dan,
    Our names are Rick and Darla March.
    We would like to come help anybody that needs the help. We will be there tomorrow (mon). We have a wheelbarrow, shovels, a rake. We can bring water and food if you like, we are not worried about ourselves, we can take care of that. We are just at a lost for you and your neighbors, as we know all to well what it is like to go from having a comfort zone one hour, and in seconds it is all gone, as we lost everything to a house fire 2years ago. Please e-mail us if you like at rck_march@yahoo.com wish I had seen this Friday.
    God Bless You All,
    Rick and Darla March

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